Do not commit adultery.
Deuteronomy 5:18

1. What is Adultery?

27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:27-28 ESV

2. Why Does God Forbid Adultery?

a. It goes against God’s original design.

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
God’s design was for one man to be united with one woman as one flesh.
Genesis 2:24-25

b. It destroys marriages and families (see 2 Sam. 11).

John 10:10

c. It’s an expression of spiritual adultery.

d. It’s physically and spiritually dangerous.

Read Proverbs 6:20-29 and Matthew 5:27-30.

3. What is the Solution to a Lustful Heart?

a Recognize that it’s the enemies plan to destroy your marriage.

b. Remember it’s a personal heart problem.

13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. 14 But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. 15 Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.
James 1:13-15

c. Invest in your spouse.

Proverbs 5:18

d. Invest in your relationship with Jesus!

Discussion Questions:

  • How do you measure your faithfulness to those important to you—friends, family, parents, spouse, co-workers, boss?
  • Have you or someone you know walked through the pain caused by adultery? What were the consequences of this sin?
  • What are some activities the Scriptures would consider spiritually adulterous toward God?
  • In what ways can those of us who are single bring honor and glory to God in a way that displays the beauty of the gospel?
  • What are some elements of temptation that can lead a person into sexual immorality?
  • In what ways can we guard against potentially compromising situations?
  • In what ways can sexual sin become an idol? What are some ways you see a cheapening of sexuality in society today?
  • How can we demonstrate the attitude of Christ toward those who have fallen into adultery? How does the gospel give us hope as we deal with sexual sin?